There is Always Hope

Kim Kabar

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#115632)

“I just want to be happy.”

I hear these words often. About as many times as I hear a heavy sigh after they have been spoken.

A sigh of exhaustion.

My clients have often been struggling for quite a long time before deciding to seek therapy. Struggling with anxiety, mostly. The desire to escape anxiety’s grip drives many of my clients to self-sooth through pornography, food, gaming and other technology, alcohol, shopping, drugs or toxic relationships. My clients often enter therapy emotionally bruised and mentally exhausted.

It takes an incredible amount of strength to ask for help. In the words of vulnerability expert and bestselling author Brené Brown, “People who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth about their stories are the real badasses.” Entering into therapy when also feeling mentally and emotionally exhausted says a lot about my badass clients.

Probably why they are so hard on themselves. “I should have been able to figure this out,” they often say or “I’ve tried everything and I’m still stuck.”

And then the second most repeated comment by my clients is voiced:

“Therapy is my last hope.”

There is always hope. It is just sometimes difficult to see and, for some, difficult to hang on to within the chaos of one’s very real struggles. It is this hope, however, that will serve as our light as we journey together for a bit as therapist and client. Whether we work together for a couple months or a couple years, my commitment is to provide you the tools for keeping that hope brilliantly lit. It is within this renewed light of hope that your answers often come. Besides, the light not only gives you peek at the upcoming forks in the road but it also is a great revealer of your blind spots. That part can be uncomfortable but we’ll get through it. You are not alone.

Who am I?

My name is Kim Kabar (she/her). I am a LGBTQIA+ Affirming marriage and family therapist currently offering telehealth counseling to California residents.

I am committed to providing a safe space of non-judgement, validation and acceptance for individuals, couples and families of all cultures, ethnicities and affectional and gender orientations. I am passionate about supporting gender diverse, non-binary and transgender clients from a gender-affirmative stance.

While my primary therapeutic modalities are rooted in evidence-based psychotherapies including attachment-based therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, narrative therapy, mindfulness-based cognitive therapy and motivational interviewing, I am also the daughter of a Jungian Analyst whose role-modeling and shared knowledge seeded within me a deep appreciation for various aspects of the psychodynamic approach. My ability to artfully blend psychodynamic approaches while using evidence-based psychotherapies aids my clients in gaining deeper insights about themselves while also creating space for the creation of new beliefs, values and goals.

Education

Master of Science, Counseling

California State University, Fullerton
Chi Sigma lota Honor Society

Bachelor of Science, Communications

California Polytechnic University, Pomona

Therapy Approach
  • Attachment-based
  • Cognitive Behavioral
  • Culturally Conscient
  • Emotionally Focused
  • LGBTQIA+ Affirming
  • Mindfulness-based
  • Narrative
  • Person-centered
  • Psychodynamic
  • Solution Focused
  • Trauma Focused

“I help clients learn softer ways of coping with their anxiety and fears.”

 

I can help

Certified in anger management, domestic abuse and trauma-based cognitive behavioral therapist, I help clients learn softer ways of coping with their anxiety and fears.

My authenticity, integrity and confidence in the therapeutic process is a strong component of the bond I am honored to experience with my clients.

  • Anxiety
  • Trauma
  • Relationship Dependency
  • Behavioral Addictions (Pornography, food, gaming, shopping, work, relationships and sex)

My authenticity, integrity and confidence in the therapeutic process is a strong component of the bond I am honored to experience with my clients.

Issues

  • Aging
  • Anger Management
  • Career Coaching
  • Depression
  • Emotional Eating
  • Employment Loss
  • Gender Dysphoria
  • Grief & Loss
  • Hopelessness

  • Intimacy Avoidance
  • Life Coaching
  • Life Transitions
  • Loss of a child
  • Love Addiction
  • Pornography Addiction
  • Low Self Steem
  • Relationships

  • Self Harming
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Spirituality
  • Stress
  • Substance Abuse
  • Suicidal Ideation
  • Suicide Loss
  • Women’s Issues

Sliding Scale Fee

  • Session (60 min): $50 – $110
  • Payments: Cash, check, Paypal, Zelle or Venmo
  • Not covered by insurance but able to provide Super Bill for you to submit to your insurance provider.

My clients

Many of my clients are often survivors of early traumatic experiences like neglect, abandonment, identity rejection, and/or being molested or physically, emotionally or verbally abused by their primary caretakers. Surviving such painful experiences takes, again, an incredible amount of strength and, I would add, intelligence. My clients were usually quite young when they figured out ways to escape (albeit, temporarily) from their painful circumstances. People pleasing, attention seeking and avoiding real connection and intimacy with others are a few popular survival skills.

These same clients, however, could not have imagined as children that these survival behaviors would later wreak havoc in their adult lives. Once considered an asset growing up within an unstable and chaotic environment, the ability to “tune out” becomes a major liability when attempting to form solid intimate adult relationships. The distress that results from the inability to “tune in” causes many of my clients to find new ways to cope, such as drinking, working, eating or shopping too much, having affairs, raging, isolating, codependency and seeking validation of one’s worth within unhealthy relationships.

Healing from my own childhood traumas, as well as living through the adult experiences of infant loss, domestic abuse, divorce and a loved one’s suicide provided me both the greatest of challenges and the greatest of teachers. The wisdom gained is what I give to you.

May our work together begin soon. I am here for you. You are not alone.

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Kim Kabar, LMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#115632)