Kim Kabar, LMFT

LGBTQ+ Love Coach
My name is Kim Kabar (she/her).

I am a LGBTQ+ affirming counselor and life coach. I help LGBTQ+ individuals overcome the obstacles keeping them stuck in life and in love.

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Finding the right therapist or life coach —someone you trust, someone you like, someone you click with — can make a huge difference in the effectiveness of the therapeutic or life coaching relationship.

For those who identify as LGBTQ, finding an affirming therapist or life coach

is often critical for creating the safe, nurturing and supportive space needed to heal.

Therapists and life coaches working from an affirmative approach seek to honor the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ individuals and help them navigate the challenges in an effective way.

If you are struggling with

Anxiety or depression

Low self-esteem

Gender dysphoria

Lack of motivation

Setting healthy boundaries within polyamourous or mono/poly relationships

Self-destructive behaviors (e.g., emotional eating, workaholism and isolation)

Relationship neediness or avoidance

Coming out

Grief and loss

Suicidal thoughts

I can help.

Whether you identify as queer, transgender, gay, lesbian, intersex, asexual, ally, non-binary, straight, polyamorous or gender fluid, I celebrate and honor your identity

I have been an ally and advocate of the LGBTQ+ community since the 1980s when I served as a member on the board of the Pomona San Gabriel Gay and Lesbian Coalition.
Following a decade-long career as a writer for the Los Angeles Times, I returned to school in 2014 to earn a graduate degree in counseling. I completed my clinical training, including earning the required 3,000 pre-licensure hours, at the LGBTQ+ Center in Santa Ana, CA. I am a currently licensed in California as a marriage and family therapist. Arizona LMFT licensure is expected by end of 2020. I provide life coaching services worldwide via video conferencing.

The fact that LGBTQ+ individuals are at higher risk for developing such mental illnesses as anxiety, depression, substance abuse and behavioral addictions is not caused because of their identity but rather because of how the world reacts to their identity. Being LGBTQ+ is not a mental disorder. Rejection of one’s identity is the disorder. The consequences of stigma, homophobia, transphobia, discrimination and familial rejection is evident within the emotional distress it causes its victims.

♥ LGBTQ+ individuals are 4x more likely to attempt suicide than heterosexual people. (U.S. Transgender Survey, 2015)

♥ 43% of transgender people have attempted suicide in their lifetime. (U.S. Transgender Survey, 2015).

♥ 40% of LGBTQ+ have experienced rejection from their family or a close friend because of their affectional orientation or gender identity. (Peer Research Center, 2013).

♥ 44% LGBTQ+ fear coming out to their mother (National Alliance on Mental Illness, 2013).

♥ 61% of LGBTQ+ fear coming out to their father. (National Alliance on Mental Illness, 2013).

♥ LGBTQ+ are 8x more likely to attempt suicide when identity is rejected by family. (National Alliance on Mental Illness, 2013).

LGBTQ+ are 3x more likely to experience symptoms of depression than their heterosexual counterparts. (National Alliance on Mental Illness, 2013).

♥ LGBTQ+ are 3x more likely to abuse substances. (National Alliance on Mental Illness, 2019).

♥ LGBTQ+ youth are 2.5x more likely to self injure. (Trevor Project’s 2019 National Survey on LGBTQ Mental Health).

♥ LGBTQ+ Veterans are 2x more likely to experience depression and suicidal ideation. (U.S. Department of Veteran Affairs, 2018).

♥ LGBTQ+ are more than 2x as likely than straight individuals to be diagnosed with a depression or anxiety. (National Alliance on Mental Illness, 2013).

♥ Each episode of LGBT victimization, such as physical or verbal harassment or abuse, increases the likelihood of self-harming behavior by 2.5x on average. (IMPACT, 2010).

My Approach

Healing the wounds of identity rejection, while resolving current struggles, with a therapist or life coach who embraces and affirms the LGBTQ+ identity is an important component to living a more joyful and authentic life.

I have helped countless clients heal from past wounds, achieve their goals and live more authentic lives. I utilize an integrated and holistic approach in helping lgbtq+ adults from diverse cultural and economic backgrounds, improve their quality of life. As your coach, I utilize a variety of coaching skills and therapeutic approaches rooted in cognitive behavioral, feminist, imago and narrative theories, as well as in the wisdom gained from contemporary healers including Bryon Katie (questioning stressful beliefs); Eckhart Tolle (mindfulness) and Pema Chodron (living with uncertainty). I help people struggling with anxiety and depression, gender transitioning, unhealthy relationship patterns, childhood trauma, post-traumatic stress disorder, anger management and substance and behavioral addictions.

I invite you to schedule a risk-free session. If you decide not to continue, you don’t pay for the session.

Telehealth video sessions are conducted using HIPAA-compliant and bank-level encryption software developed by SimplePractice, LLC, a leading practice management software company. SimplePractice, LLC’s servers are housed in a secure facility protected by proximity readers, biometric scanners, and security guards 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. To further ensure privacy and security of our telehealth sessions, telehealth sessions cannot be recorded or saved in any manner.

How It Works

1 on 1 Video Conference

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60 to 90 minutes weekly sessions.

Reach Your Goals

Heal.

Enjoy your life

Enjoy you.

Weekly Sessions

Duration of sessions is typically 60 to 90 minutes.

* = To better support the LGBTQ+ community during our current health crisis and to aid individuals struggling with increased anxiety, distress and/or financial hardships, coaching fees will be individually determined using a sliding scale and based on what you can currently afford.

$125*

Pre-paid monthly (4 sessions)

Duration of sessions is typically 60 to 90 minutes.

* = To better support the LGBTQ+ community during our current health crisis and to aid individuals struggling with increased anxiety, distress and/or financial hardships, coaching fees will be individually determined using a sliding scale and based on what you can currently afford.

$450*

Recurring clients

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Kim Kabar, LMFT

Kim Kabar, LMFT

LGBTQ+ Love coach

Licensed marriage and family therapist

Education

Master of Science in Counseling
California State University, Fullerton

Bachelor of Science in Communications
California Polytechnic University, Pomona

My Specialties

  • Relationship Dependency
  • Relationship Avoidance
  • Compulsive Behaviours
  • Obsessive Thinking
  • Low Self Esteem
  • Anxiety And Depression
  • Grief And Loss

Something that makes me…

GIDDY
Serendipitous moments

SMILE
Sunflowers

WINCE
Judgment

PROUD
Being an LGBTQ+ Ally

JOYFUL
Being witness to others transformations

My core values

Living in
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Making a
DIFFERENCE

Living
JOYOUSLY

Being
AUTHENTIC

Celebrating
CREATIVITY

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Testimonials

Kim is a powerful love coach whose methods and thought-provoking questions acted as a catalyst to my healing and breaking free of unhealthy relational cycles. The way I related to others and the way I had been living and thinking had been causing me great pain. I was fortunate that in my attempt to try to “fix” myself I found Kim. What I learned with my time with Kim was more than the simple fact that I am not broken beyond repair, but that I have wounds that need attention and healing. Kim and I looked at those wounds together (a very scary thing to do) and she metaphorically held my hand through every step. Looking at my wounds allowed for a new path where I explored things such as self-validation, self-preservation, values, and root of trauma among others. In a way, Kim’s coaching was the life coaching that my own parental figures were not able to provide. I realized that what Kim was aiding me in was building my integral fabric of my being that I was never allowed to have or taught how to develop. Kim was dedicated to my personal growth and her level of patience and empathy are qualities that many of us who seek help and healing have never gotten but sure do deserve. Working with Kim as a therapist and a coach to me, were rewarding, painful, and beautiful experience. Thank you, Kim. I am still learning and growing. Thank you for the tools. Thank you for the Love.
I.G.

I am so thankful for Kim and her expertise, compassion, and wisdom. I can count the number of people on just one hand who have made such a huge impact on my life … and Kim is one. My family’s rejection of me because of my transgender identity has been beyond difficult but having Kim in my corner has allowed me to not feel so alone.  But more than that, through the process of working with Kim, I have come to realize and own my strengths. I come to better understand myself and others. My anxiety, which was skyrocketing when we started, has come down significantly.  The best gift I received during my time working with Kim was not getting stuck in my grief. I not only got through it, I came out of it a stronger, wise and more confident woman. Couldn’t have done it without her. Eternally grateful. Highly recommend.
P. L., Tampa, FL

Coaching with Kim has helped me immensely with my recovery from low self esteem, attachment trauma and relationship anxiety. With her encouragement and helpful insights, I was able to improve the relationship with myself and others. I highly recommend Kim as a life coach. She will change your life!
Lisa J., New Mexico

Contact me

You can reach me at (928) 793-3565; by e-mail at healerofhearts@kimkabar.com or by using the form below.

Covid-19 Update

To better support the LGBTQ+ community during our current health crisis and to aid individuals struggling with increased anxiety, distress and/or financial hardships, coaching fees will be individually determined using a sliding scale and based on what you can currently afford.